How to get over emotional buffering?
If you've ever tried to avoid your intense feelings and emotional sensitivity by indulging in food, Alcohol, TV, Netflix, or clubbing,
you've experienced Emotional Buffering.
It's using external things to change how you feel emotionally.
But Sensitive people take this to a whole new level which can lead to addictions.
So how to get over it? It's not easy, especially if you've been doing it a lot and you are prone to it.
But the first step to change any habit is to accept that the habit needs to change.
1. SELF-ACCEPTANCE
Understand your coping mechanisms. Identify your patterns.
Accept your Behavioiur.
Take initiative to modify your pattern.
2. SELF-RESPONSIBILITY
Own your feelings. Try to understand the root causes of these emotions and intense feelings.
Why are you feeling angry, anxious, frustrated, sad, irritable?
I know, telling HSPs to feel? Well, there's just no way around it.
You habe to do the work on yourself if you want to implement any kind of habit. Because there's always a reason.
3. SELF-COMPASSION
Show yourself some compassion and kindness.
Don't judge yourself. You have every right to feel whatever you want to feel.
Your emotions are valid.
When you accept your emotions you become kinder to yourself.
And it becomes a lot easier to go through what you're going through.
4) SHADOW WORK
You need a healthy outlet for your cramped up emotions and intense feelings.
Try practicing shadow work.
Journaling your feelings, all kinds of feelings.
Feelings of Anger, anxiety, frustration, irritability, nervousness and fear.
Write them down. Let them all out. Face your shadows.
5) SELF-LOVE
Show yourself some love. When you are feeling intense emotions it's normal to get exhausted and feel tired.
The best way is to rest. Rest to declutter your mind of intense feelings.
Have a good night's sleep.
Try not to overdo it.
Indulge in a relaxing activity after your shadow work session.
Don't try to stimulate your mind.
6) SELF CARE
Make it a habit to follow practice self-care activity when you are feeling too much.
Try to balance yourself and your emotions.
Create a self-care plan. Set some routine and rituals for you to follow when you feel a certain way.
It will get easier and you will trust yourself to balance your emotions and becoming emotionally independent.
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